The other night, as soon as I came through the door, you ran up to me and shouted at the top of your lungs, “Dada! Dada! Dada!” When I walked into our living room, your eyes lit up like a kid opening a present on Christmas morning. It was pure joy.
Then later that night we chased each other all around the house. As you laughed and giggled with me, I knew this moment wouldn’t last forever. Like all other sons and daughters your time as an infant are numbered. One day you were going to grow up, and our relationship would change.
So while I have you as a young boy, I will cherish every chase we take, wrestle match we have, and laugh we share. One day though you aren’t going to be daddy’s little boy more. You will become a young man. As you develop into that man I need you to remember a few things.
I’m Proud of You.
Son, I need you to hear me. I don’t care what you do. I am proud of you. There is no reason to try and prove yourself to me because I’m already proud of you.
The rest of my life, I will take every possible moment to tell you that.
You are going to screw up, make poor choices, and wish you could do things different. When you do I might get upset, but afterwards I promise I will wrap you in my arms. Then gently remind you, “Even after your screw up, I love you and more importantly I’m proud of you.”
I will not always be proud of your actions,
but I will always be proud of you.
Don’t Be Defined by Others.
This world is constantly trying to either pull you down or push you off course. People will try to tell you how to act and how to think, and you will find out quickly that peer pressure mounts exponentially when you enter high school.
With mounting pressure from others, you will seek to find your identity in your accomplishments, what people think about you, or how good you are at a certain activity. Don’t give in to the pressures. It’s not worth it.
Your dad’s greatest regrets are because he let others define him, and I desperately desire to save you from the lifetime of hurt my choices caused me, but even when you do screw up and let others define you, don’t forget. I’m proud of you still.
Carry on the Faith Legacy.
My dad, your grandfather, changed our faith legacy. In a small town of Oklahoma, God called him out of darkness and into beautiful new life. He became a better husband, an amazing dad, and a man of immense character and integrity. Any qualities you love about me are only possible because your grandfather passed them on to me.
Now it’s your turn. I have worked hard to create a home where God is a priority, grace is important, and we love people the way Jesus loves us, but I can’t make you believe everything I believe. You must decide for yourself.
As you decide, I ask you to remember the faith legacy that came before you, and then choose to pass that legacy on. Pass it on to your family one day. Share it with your friends today. Use it wisely to change the world.
Our faith legacy is a beautiful gift passed down from generation to generation. Now you are the next to receive this life-altering gift. Don’t let others define you. Let our legacy of faith define you. It will be the best choice you ever make.
Your faith might falter. There will be times of doubt and questions. That’s perfectly fine. God isn’t afraid of your question, and I’m proud of you for being brave enough to ask them. In the end though, choose Jesus; because Jesus makes your life greater and He makes you greater at life.
Whatever you need son, I’m here for you.
I love you and the man you are becoming.
I’m proud of you……always and forever.
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