Mother’s Day happened just a few weeks ago, and the days leading up to Mother’s Day were incredibly stressful for me. This stress was completely self induced, and it all resulted because of a huge flaw I have. My flaw is I’m a terrible gift giver. I try. Really I do, but try is about all you can typically say about my gifts.
Regularly I will tell my wife prior to holidays or birthdays, “I’m banking on the thought counting because the thought is the best part of your gift.” My stress is compounded because my wife is such an amazing gift giver, and she loves to receive gifts as well. I’m not sure there is a love language test out there, but if there was my score would come back negative on the gift giver chart. Needless to say my lack of confidence was not helping me to come up with ideas for a great Mother’s day gift, and then it hit me while I was walking around a store. The idea that hit me was fantastic…………if and only if I could pull it off.
I began to make mental notes of what I would need to purchase in order to make this gift. You read that correctly. MAKE A GIFT! My brilliant idea for Mother’s Day was that I would make a “memory box” where Megan could fill the box with pictures and cards of memories she never wants to forget. Now all I needed to do was purchase the wood, the stain, the wood glue, and all the other supplies. Then I had to cut all the pieces, stain them, and assemble them. The problem was that I didn’t have the right saw to work with in order to make nice clean cut lines on the wood.
I went to our local handy man in the office, Tim Storms, and asked for his help. Within minutes he told me the right type of saw needed to be used, and he just so happened to have the right kind of saw. Later that week he would help cut all the pieces and I would assemble the box. In my humble opinion it turned out amazing and Megan loved it which is what really counts.
Without Tim’s help my box would have never been made. This same principle of being better together translates so well to families and the church. For years the church and the home have been going on separate tracks in opposite directions. What if we worked better together? What if the church and the home got on the same page spiritually and decided raising the next generation to love the Lord is our greatest priority?
Let me give you four ways the church and the home can work better together.
- Make church a priority – I get it. Life is busy. This means when Sunday morning rolls around or it’s time for youth group it is just easier to skip one week and then another week and then another week. You are constantly teaching your children what you value by how you spend your time. If church is not a priority for you as evidence by the effort you make to show up, then your kids will adopt the same mindset.
- Be consistently involved– We ask our small group leaders both in kids church and youth group to be involved at minimum 1 whole year. We do this because we wants adults consistently showing up as spiritual leaders in a kid’s life, but at home you need to have consistent faith conversations as well. At dinner, in the car, pray time before school or at night, these are all easy times to engage in faith conversations routinely. If you aren’t sure where to begin faith conversations. I would love to help you. You can contact me at Chris@aplacetobelong.com
- Pray for one another– Pastors, when was the last time you prayed for the parents in your ministry by name? Parents, when was the last time you prayed for your pastors? We should be regularly praying for the leaders in the church and the home. When prayer becomes a priority is when God’s vision for this world becomes a reality.
- Be each other’s cheerleaders – We train our leaders to be the biggest cheerleaders in the world for parents. We fully believe parents have the greatest potential for influence in a kid’s life beyond anybody else and we want to be their champion. Every ministry should be this way. Parents should also be the champion of the church as well. The church isn’t perfect just like there are no perfect parents, but imperfections should not give us license not to cheer each other on. Both the parents and the church are working as hard as possible to accomplish the task God has put before us. Let’s cheer each other on.
If you want to know more about how our youth group partners with parents you can check out my book Built to Last Youth Ministry and make sure you leave a review on Amazon.